This week the National Organization for Marriage celebrated when the New York Senate defeated the bill that would have legalized same-sex marriage there. “Praise God!” the NOM folks exulted in an e-mail to supporters. They were ecstatic that they had managed to defeat this horrible threat to the sanctity of marriage in New York, and they urged their supporters to keep sending that money so they could move on to New Jersey and stop the threat of gay marriage there.
It made me so mad I wanted to “break plates and strangle ducks,” to borrow a line from Ellsworth Schave’s play “A Texas Romance.”
And why did it make me so mad, you may ask. I’ll tell you. It made me mad because I am sick and tired of hearing people talk about how my loving, committed, monogamous relationship with my wife will somehow taint straight people’s marriages and even destroy the “sacred institution” of marriage itself.
And then today, I got an e-mail with this subject line: “Hook up with lonely Wives for affairs?.” No joke. This e-mail was urging me to “join free right now” so that I could “date lonely cheating wives” and “search for sexy married personals of cheating women who wish to date in your area.” It proudly proclaimed this as “a new website that caters to lonely cheating women who find relationships outside their marriage.”
First of all, let me say, I do not visit online dating sites. I am happily married and have no need of finding a date. Secondly, This isn’t a Web site that caters to lesbians; I checked to make sure. There is a line that specifically says: “Meet lonely wives seeking affection online from men tonight!” And thirdly, I am pretty sure that this site makes money; it wouldn’t have been created if it didn’t.
And yet, it’s my relationship — my loving, committed, monogamous relationship — with my same-sex partner that is destroying the sacred institution of marriage? Give me a freakin’ break!
Just a warning, you’d better hide the plates and the ducks, because I am still mad. And getting madder by the minute.